HETEROSEXUAL AGGRESSORS VS. CHILDREN: MARRIAGE; EXTRAMARITAL AND POSTMARITAL COITUS
By the time they were interviewed, three quarters of the sample of aggressors vs. children had married—a high percentage, but not unusually high if one considers that the average married individual was forty-two years old. This average individual married when he was nearly twenty-two.
The aggressors vs. children are typified by multiple marriages: only 53 per cent (a rather low figure) of the ever-married had married once, whereas a third (by far the largest proportion recorded) had married three times or more. One must, however, recall that our sample is small: there were only 19 married aggressors vs. children. A large number of the broken marriages were brief; 26 per cent of the aggressors vs. children had one broken marriage which lasted two years or less, and 26 per cent had two or more such marriages, a figure exceeded by no other group. This brevity of marriage is all the more remarkable because these aggressors had the largest proportion of common-law marriages (nearly one third) of any group, and we did not count such a liaison as a marriage unless the two had lived together at least a full year.
In view of the brittleness of these marriages it comes as no surprise to find that the aggressors vs. children were prone to marry women whom they had known for a relatively short time. The average was three months; only one other group, the aggressors vs. minors, married on shorter notice. Haste and impulsiveness frequently go hand in hand and are not unexpected in aggressors who could not wait for their sexual gratification but resorted to violence and threat.
One third of the aggressors vs. children had coitus with their future brides. This is the lowest figure reported by any group and completely out of keeping with the other aggressors who rank first (86 per cent) and third (65 per cent) in this regard. Aside from the omnipresent possibility of vagary due to smallness of sample, only a few things suggest themselves as partial explanations. The premarital coitus of aggressors vs. children was strongly oriented toward prostitutes. Such emphasis on prostitution is common in groups whose members subscribe to the “good girl—bad girl” dichotomy: that you have sex with bad girls but marry virgins. Such a philosophy tends to diminish coitus with fianc?es. Some 17 per cent, the fourth largest percentage, of the aggressors vs. children strongly desired a virginal wife, and undoubtedly a larger number had similar but less positive feelings.
None of the brides of the 19 married aggressors vs. children were pregnant at the time of marriage. In retrospect this fact seems almost an omen since these men produced very few children—to be precise, 13 children per ten aggressors. Their marital infertility is, of course, related to the breakup and the brevity of their marriages.
The aggressors vs. children, unlike other aggressors, were apt to devote little time to foreplay in their marital coitus. Over half (the second largest proportion in any group) averaged three minutes or less. This may reflect the same inability to wait, to defer pleasure, that we suggested in the discussion of their brief courtships.
The role of mouth-genital contact in the foreplay is most interesting. One will recall that in premarital life a large number of the aggressors vs. children had experience in mouth-genital contact, and that the experience tended to consist chiefly of the female’s placing her mouth on the male genitalia, and only rarely the reverse. We hypothesized that the aggressors vs. children looked upon mouth-genital contact as something desirable if done to one, but degrading if done by oneself. This hypothesis may explain what we now see in marriage: very few aggressors vs. children (only 26 per cent, the third smallest proportion) had any sort of mouth-genital contact with their wives. The desire to be fellated, which shows up so strongly before or outside of marriage, is nearly invisible within marriage—only 21 per cent (the fifth smallest percentage) had been fellated by their wives.
The sexual conservatism exhibited by the aggressors vs. children with reference to the women they marry (i.e., little premarital coitus with fianc?es, little mouth-genital contact) is once more seen in coital techniques. Over a quarter (the third largest proportion) had never used any but the “standard” position in marital coitus, and not one had had anal coitus. One has the general impression that this group looked upon all sexual voluptuousness (e.g., long foreplay, mouth-genital contact, and varied coital techniques) as sinful and unbecoming in a marital relationship, although quite desirable in a relationship with “bad” women.
Too few married aggressors vs. children are in our sample to permit any meaningful calculation of marital coitus frequencies in the several five-year age-periods.
However unsatisfactory other aspects of their marriages may have been, and despite their limited foreplay and techniques, it seems that their wives reached orgasm in coitus more often than the wives of most other men. During three quarters of their married lives they achieved orgasm nine out of ten times or more; the wives of only two other groups (note one is the aggressor vs. minor group) did better. The reader is reminded that all this is based upon the reports of the husbands; the wives, being ordinarily unavailable, were rarely interviewed. There always remains the possibility or even probability of male delusion born of pride or vanity. The males themselves gave a rather unfavorable report of their marital happiness; by and large, the aggressors vs. children show a definite tendency toward unhappy marriages.
Sixty-eight per cent of the aggressors vs. children had had, while married, coitus with females other than their wives. This is 20 percentage points more than the figure reported by the control group, and puts them in the fifth rank, a position in keeping with their above-average coital record. All the heterosexual aggressors fall within the first five ranks of those with extramarital coital experience.
There were too few separated, divorced, or widowed individuals to permit calculation of postmarital statistics.
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