LEAVING YOUR CHILDREN SOMETHING TO LOVE BY/SOME ANSWERS TO THESE MISASSUMPTIONS REGARDING SEXUALITY: YOU WANT ME TO JUST TALK ABOUT SEX AND TELL MY PARENTS ABOUT THIS. ARE YOU CRAZY?
This is impossible. You want me to just talk about sex and tell my
parents about this. Are you crazy? They are from another world.
They would die if I really told them what is going on out there.
FIFTEEN-YEAR-OLD BOY
What makes them upset is not being told or not feeling able to talk with you about these things. You know what? Your parents have had more sex than you have. Yes. I know you may find that hard to believe, but your parents have had and do have sex. They love each other. There is nothing absolutely nothing, you cannot tell your Parents. It is very, very sad that young people are out there in large numbers fumbling around trying to learn sex on their own, or pre-tending they’ve already learned it, when they have parents to talk to and from whom they could learn. And one more thing. You don’t have to start out by telling them anything. Ask them things. Ask about their feelings, about their sexuality. Fair is fair. They’ll tell you theirs if you’ll tell them yours. You don’t have to talk about what you do or they do, but talk about feelings and values and beliefs and specifics about what can, cannot, and sometimes should not be done. Go ahead. Make their day. Ask them a good, strong question you think they can’t handle.
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